7 Annoying Things People Say To Interracial Couples
December 14, 2022
I’ve updated this story from June 2022 for three reasons: 1. Since I began writing about interracial families, people have said more annoying things; 2. I wanted to change the title from “stupid” to “annoying” things because of feedback about the harmful and ableist use of the term “stupid”; 3. The Respect for Marriage Act was just signed into law, codifying the right of same-sex and interracial couples to marry in the US. The fact that this legislation was necessary to secure these rights is demonstrative of the fact that these conversations need to happen. If you already read the first version, feel free to skip down to #6 for new material. So, without further ado…
I am a white woman (notwithstanding one DNA test that identified 3% Afro-Caribbean genes). I am married to a Black American man (whose DNA is almost 90% West and East African). We are an interracial couple. It’s not the first time either of us has been in an interracial relationship, and we both have biracial Black children with former partners. The sets of circumstances in each of our respective lives that have led us to be in interracial relationships that cross the Black/white color line are varied, complex, and different. At the end of the day, we are a really good fit for each other, and our relationship was tested only six months into it by two…